It is natural for children to be developing their personality and most go through a phase where they bark out demands and orders.
But it is useful to remember who is in control as your child could quickly become the one calling all the shots.
>> Who is in control?
If you let your child get their own way all the time, you’re in danger of a teenager that is used to getting their own way.
Don’t do what they say just for a quiet life – remind them to make requests in an appropriate manner.
Defuse power struggles by offering as many choices as you can, that way they’ll feel as though they’ve had a say in the matter.
Teach your child how to ask nicely for what they want. Demanding things can be a hard habit to break, so practise phrases your child can use to ask for things politely.
Try role modelling through play if your child particularly struggles.
Good communication skills are an asset, so by developing them you are standing your child in good stead.
Pay less attention to bossy behaviour.
Children love playing to an audience so don’t encourage the behaviour by laughing.
Don’t spend lots of one to one time with your child addressing the behaviour – simply ignore the bossy demand and only respond to the desired behaviour.
There’s a danger bossiness could affect your child’s friendships.
Supervise play if you feel this may be an issue and take them to one side if you feel they are becoming bossy.
Set rules for play and role model communication skills with your child.
A bossy child is usually an assertive one, and assertiveness can be an asset as your child grows up.
Helping children develop communication skills and see all points of view can transform their bossiness into future leadership skills.